How To: Learn From Your Past

I came across this poster on Tumblr (sadly uncredited), and it really stuck out to me. I couldn't stop thinking about it, especially the part about learning from your past which is something I believe is important to do. So I decided to create this little "How To:" post which I hope you like and maybe it will even be helpful.  Accept What Has Happened In Your Past

• This could be anything from the smallest mistake, to a big event that has taken place in your life. You may or may not have had control of it at the time, but you can take control of it now. Whatever it was, you should identify what happened and accept that it happened. The first step to learning from something is accepting it in the first place.

Don't Be Ashamed

• Like the above poster said, don't be ashamed of your past. It's something you can no longer change and you should never apologise for your feelings about it. We're all human, and most of the time you can't control what you feel. What is in the past is in the past, and it's there for a reason.

 How Did It Happen

• Whatever you are trying to learn from, it may not be possible to understand why or how it happened. But if for example, you are trying to overcome a bad friendship or relationship because it is affecting the ones in your present, you can try and work out what caused them to fail.

Learning From It

• Once you have done your best to get a grasp on the above steps, it will be easier to learn from what has happened. Acceptance, and understanding why something happened gives you the fuel to learn how to deal with it if it were to happen again, and sometimes it gives you the skills to avoid repeating the same "mistakes".

I think the most important factors you need to be aware of when coming to terms with something, is acceptance and then time. Time doesn't necessarily heal everything, but things certainly get easier as time goes on. Not everything can be learned from, but you should try and take away something from each experience if you can. Reliving the past is not always fun, but it can be helpful to the wellbeing of your future. Accepting and learning allows you to do things more happily in the present, and by learning why things happened, you can try and prevent them from happening again.

You have the ability to change pretty much everything in your life, but the past is something you can't change. It is set in stone, but this doesn't mean that you need to forget about it or pretend like it didn't happen, because it is important to your story. Take pride in your past and knowing that it can stay in the past, because every day is a new day and you can do whatever you want to.

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